Anyone have anything to say about this?

It is the relationship you have with God that gives you the security you need. You can't fix all of her problems. You seem so overwhelmed and of course, with ADD that is a huge problem. She has to begin to realize as we all do that we get our confidence from what God tells us we are. We are not orphans but we are His sons and daughters and we must live with victory. Remember who you are! Do the things that God asks of you and it will all fall into place.